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#026 – You will often hear what you should do, today hear HOW to do it.

Neil Dylan Young’s job in Dubai was causing him panic attacks. His body screamed at him to follow his heart. But that’s a big ask when you have a family to provide for.

 

Hear Neil’s story as he attended 22 Tony Robbins events in 22 consecutive months to grab hold of the exact practices he needed to pursue his purpose.

You’ll get a real dose of putting those principles into action as Neil makes me step to the plate and create my own intentions during the show.

Neil’s story and step by step instructions can inspire the change you’re looking for today.

 

Listen here or check it out on Apple Podcasts, iHeartRadio, Spotify, and all podcast platforms.

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Always Forward,

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Neil Dylan Young 0:04

I had a panic attack at work, couldn't figure out what's going on. So dumped my car drove up the beach was trying to get my head together literally felt suicidal. I was thinking what was going on? Why do I feel like this? That's my realize my body was screaming at me saying, Neil, wake up. This is not you need to follow your heart.

Joe Pomeroy 0:25

Hey, everybody, welcome to today's episode of the Forward with Joe Pomeroy cast. We have as our guest, Neil Dylan young, who's a peak performance coach that helps successful entrepreneurs push past their limits to create even more freedom in their lives. How are you doing Neil?

Neil Dylan Young 0:38

Hey, Joe, thank you so much for having me on the podcast a long time no See, and great to be here.

Joe Pomeroy 0:43

Now, you so far are the guests that lives furthest away from anybody that I've interviewed. You are in Dubai, United Arab Emirates. I'm excited to hear some different perspectives and different opportunities. How did things in the entrepreneur world start out for you?

Neil Dylan Young 0:57

So my story kind of started when I was three years old. I was living in Dubai and I had this infection on my ankle and it's traveling up and down my body. Doctors were quite worried thinking What is this? And they were worried Am I good to my heart and I'm like, kill me. But luckily went back out of my ankle, the operated and I lost a ton of weight. I was bedridden for like two months. Just quite sick. I'm in my parents been quite worried and I'm just one moment these like little wooden crutches are like Tiny Tim kept on falling over on these crutches. But yeah, I just have this one moment, probably my earliest childhood memory. I feel like it kind of shaped with my life of my parents just watching me in bed because I wouldn't get out. It's so tight and sick and sick. All Borneo, he looks so weak, so helpless. What are we going to do? I think there's two emotions, we can helpless. And I felt like that was my identity for the next 20 years of my life. Fast forward. I was 25 years old, just come back from university. So it's back in Dubai working for a building contractor as a quantity surveyor, which is not me. I do not like that kind of work. I'm a big people person, and anyone who's done a quantity surveying job knows you're just measuring quantities in front of a PC. But I had a panic attack at work and I couldn't figure out what's going on. So to my car, drove up to the beach was trying to get my head together literally felt suicidal. I was thinking, what the hell is going on? Why do I feel like this? And that's when I realized my body was screaming at me saying, Neil, wake up. This is not you. You to follow your heart. Okay? You've been copying other people your whole life because I felt weak and helpless. I was a big copycat. I copied what my parents wanted me to do. I copied all my friends. I remember, I remember going to friends houses, play video games. And I just observe. I wouldn't take part you know, just too scared. I was always observing and copying people. So that panic attack. My body's telling me like, Listen, we've had enough you just start following your heart. So I started listening to my heart thinking what I really want to do in life. Probably the darkest moment in my life. I was drinking tons of weight. I lost that job, which was a good thing. didn't feel like it at the time. I was pretty close. My father didn't speak to him for a year and I stopped hanging around. with tons of friends who have bad influence on me, so yeah, it's pretty dark time for me and my wife introduced me to this podcast, Entrepreneur on Fire by Johnny Dumas, which I'm sure everyone in the podcast world knows. Yeah, I was doing my morning power walks on the beach just listening to other successful entrepreneurs trying to absorb their vibes and advice. And then I heard about mastermind groups. And that's how we met after I joined Aaron Walker's eisai mastermind. I was in that for two years and really raised my game as the 10 other like minded entrepreneurs and really good group and introduced my my game in terms of goal setting and push my life to new limits. And then I thought I wanted to go even further. So I joined a Tony Robbins Platinum partnership. And I joined that in 2017. And I've been in that now for three years. And I kind of claim to fame as having done a 22 Tony Robbins events over 22 consecutive months. And yeah, two things I really realized for my journey was that lights are two things. The first is peer group. Like we spend time on this you become. I've been blessed to spend time with lots of amazing people such as yourself. The second thing is mastering your intentions, feelings, habits and energy, which really satisfies your human needs. So um, yeah, that's kind of my story in a nutshell.

Joe Pomeroy 4:10

That was That was really good going from, we're starting at three years old. I was like, oh, we're going way back. But it's such a it's such a key pivotal point and you bring us something that's really interesting. There are experiences that take place throughout our life at any age. And we assign meaning from those stories, that whatever it is, so at three years old, the way a three year old comprehends the world, the way a three year old sees himself creates meaning and interpretation. Your parents I don't think we're coming to you and saying, Neil, you are weak and helpless, you will always be it was just a comment made about the situation, and then it sticks with us and those are messages we carry throughout our lives. That means when you're 25 having that panic attack, you're still viewing yourself through the lens of a three year old.

Neil Dylan Young 4:58

100% like The meaning So one thing I tell people is, so I've got a 10 month old son now and all of us have muscle memory. So all the emotions we feel it's kind of like along our chakras or energy centers, along our spine. And like my son, for example, he's experiencing all these new things. And if he touches something, and it hurts him, you'll have a bad emotion towards that. So you and me as adults, we've experienced good emotions and bad emotions over the years, as kind of shaped us. And biggest thing I've learned to change your life, you know, whether it's in your business or with your family, the two things that change either pain or pleasure. Most people use pleasure. So when people set new year's resolutions, they don't use pleasure by end of January beginning affair they've normally given up. But pain is a much bigger motivator. Why? I can't find my intentions, feelings have as an energy in terms of pleasure, like how I want to experience my life. I also do the opposite and say how do I not want to experience my life, but more specifically, what my past experience has been? So that's a story I told you when I was three, the panic attack when I was 25. This is There's only a few stories that I've been through. So I've got countless others where I'm just like, painful memories where I've really clarified what the emotion was I felt, for example, lacking or broken. And I've searched meaning to those words, but I never ever want to experience it again. So even when things get kind of comfortable, I'm still kind of spurred on to achieve.

Joe Pomeroy 6:23

That's really interesting because you're talking about using pain to create positive change. Yeah. So you give me a specific example where you were maybe a maybe a past story came up and you did with your backstory, but but something maybe in your, in your later years, even more recently, in your entrepreneurial world, yeah. Or more recently in your marriage where you took a pain point or you focused on the pain in order to help you move in a positive direction.

Neil Dylan Young 6:49

100% So, our main business out here in Dubai is a structural engineering consultancy. So we're quite niche. We work on existing buildings, and it's a family business. So, in my business, so I have eight life categories, I'm always doing goal setting in, and I have an emotion and identity for each one. So I have like eight emotions that I always focus on. I also have eight emotions that I don't want to be, which are kind of like past emotions. So the most important one for me was in my business where I always want to be organized, I want to be a business owner and organized was a feeling for me, if I'm an organizer, I can get stuff done. And then the emotion that I didn't want to feel that went back to my past is feeling dependent. You know, I mean, my parents were amazing. But growing up in Dubai, like if you've heard about it, it's very materialistic. It's more like an adult at Disneyland. There's so much luxury here, so much convenience, it's very easy to get spoiled. So I was very dependent, you know, on, on the lifestyle I had and it's a bit of a shock to me like going to the UK for university and living by myself and stuff, so I'm not feeling dependent as a big thing. I've got my own coaching and mastermind business now, so I'm self sufficient on that. I actually left the family business in January. Just to give you one I've got many examples, but one example was not being dependent, becoming more organized and looking after myself.

Joe Pomeroy 8:05

What was that like transitioning out of a family business in order to be self sufficient, because whether it's somebody that they've got a corporate job, and there's no family ties and looking to transition out, but now you've transitioning to be independent from a family business, which comes at it from a different angle. So what was the process that you took to be able to maybe including conversations with your spouse, with your wife and what was that transition like to go from the family business to becoming independent in your own coaching and mastermind work?

Neil Dylan Young 8:38

So firstly, I would say like, probably the biggest friction, because me my father, always, always arguing like now, that's great. We still have arguments now and then, but anyone will tell you work with family is quite quite challenging, because it's like the personal and professional relationships. And I always tell people, like just don't call it a family business. It's a business. You know, if you just call it a business objective and everyone Roll as you start bringing family into your like on as a family business, you know, I've got my kids, my uncles and stuff, and it's way too personal. But yeah, I mean, if you're comparing it to somebody out there who has a corporate job, and they're looking to transition into their own online business or something, I'd say you still need to keep those bridges don't burn those bridges. You know, I mean, many times, I remember, like, maybe three years ago, like, once every two months, I was getting fired by my dad, you know, just just arguing all the time. But I always came back, you know, it's like we made up struck a broken record. But I say definitely don't burn your bridges. I definitely had more leeway because he's my dad. But if you were working for an employer, I'd say, um, make sure you've got some runway, especially have a family. Just give yourself some runway like one or two years to kind of get that other business off the ground before you burn your bridges completely.

Joe Pomeroy 9:50

Where was your wife in this process? Was she fully on board with you pursuing what you wanted to do? Is she a little bit nervous, but she worried about what goes on at family dinners would be like After when you work with the company more What? What was her perspective on these things?

Neil Dylan Young 10:04

That's a really good question. Um, yeah, she's like an angel. Like, she's really had my back, you know? Because, yes, some days I come home and just be in a bad mood and she kind of be around that conflict sometimes. And my father, but she was just really supportive. I don't think she could have done anything better. You know, she's just there for me. Yeah, I mean, it definitely sometimes it's a bit stressful. I definitely did try to leave out of it. But um, it's hard because you come home, she can tell like you're not not feeling well. So, um, she was she was very supportive.

Joe Pomeroy 10:36

Alright, so when people want to make some kind of change, whether it's transitioning from corporate life to entrepreneur, entrepreneurial life, whether it's, you talked about New Year's resolutions, and by the end of January, February, like it's already done, so what's the first step that people need to take in order to have positive change in their life?

Neil Dylan Young 10:56

So I always love to do a live goal setting example where Come up with a quick sentence or incantation. I think it would really help your listeners. Do you want to do one now?

Joe Pomeroy 11:05

Yeah, let's do it.

Neil Dylan Young 11:06

So what's the goal you want in your life, whether it's in your business, your health, your relationships,

Joe Pomeroy 11:11

let's do health. I want to be a healthy 210 pounds.

Neil Dylan Young 11:15

You want to be healthy to under 10 pounds. Awesome. So before we go after that, go fishing to understand the four human needs. Okay, so my uncle Tony Robbins, other people like Joe dispenza, saguru, Brendon Bouchard, all these other speakers. I've been to quite a few events. Now I've seen a pattern. There's four human needs. So the first human need is the need of the heart. That's all right contribution. The way you satisfy your heart's need for contribution is by giving to an area of your life. So if you want to result in your health, your business, your relationships, you did give from your heart, that area of life and you do that by setting an intention. So we've done that we've clarified you want to be healthy, 210 pounds, Correct?

Joe Pomeroy 11:50

Correct.

Neil Dylan Young 11:51

Okay. Then we want to the body, okay, and the need of the body is love connection. So the way we satisfy the body needs the body's need for love connection. It's by coming at it with an empowering feeling. So like, while you're working towards that goal, you feel good doing it. Otherwise, it's just a grind, and you might give up, then the next need is needed the mind and the knee of the mind is certainty. And the way the mind satisfies this need for certainty is to having physical things. So having a boyfriend, girlfriend, having money, having a car or laptop, food, water, shelter, anything physical, satisfies the mind. And then the final need is near the Spirit, and the need of the spirit is all about growth. And the way the spirit satisfies this need for growth is by doing things keeping busy. So it could be talking, walking, working, eating, anytime, any verb anytime you're doing something that satisfies any of the Spirit. So to summarize, the, the hardest wanting the body's feeling the mind is having and the spirits doing, want feel have do. That's your four needs satisfied. So I personally have eight incantations one for each area of my life. I'm even seeing them in my head right now when I'm talking to you. And I use this every second of my life. So we're going to With one for you now for your health goal, so your sentence your content, your incantation, it's gonna be something like this, I want to be a healthy 210 pounds so that I feel this emotion and have tons of this physical resource so that I'm able to do more of this. Okay, so we'll do together. I just want to repeat after me so I want to be a healthy 210 pounds.

Joe Pomeroy 13:25

I want to be a healthy 210 pounds.

Neil Dylan Young 13:27

So that I feel and what's the emotion you need to feel every day for the next 12 months in order to feel that how would you describe that vision of

Joe Pomeroy 13:36

energetic connected positive?

Neil Dylan Young 13:39

If you had to pick one energetic connected a positive?

Joe Pomeroy 13:42

I think energetic,

Neil Dylan Young 13:43

Okay, sounds right.

Joe Pomeroy 13:44

Because I can feel and see that energy like with my kids with my wife and the work that I'm doing like I'm just that's what I feel when I talk about energetic

Neil Dylan Young 13:53

love. It is definitely the right emotion. One thing I do tell people is that kind of test these emotions, you know, you can't say I want a million dollar Then the motion will be comfortable, you know, and I feel uncomfortable every day, it's not going to get you the goal that you want. So energetic sounds like the right one. So repeat after me again, I want to be a healthy 210 pounds. So I feel energetic.

Joe Pomeroy 14:13

I want to be a healthy 210 pounds. So I feel energetic

Neil Dylan Young 14:17

and have tons of what we have physically if you achieve this goal. So for example, if it was a business or finance school, it might be assets, resources, clients sales leads. So your health would it be muscle would it be energy? What would you have physically as evidence to the world that you've achieved this goal?

Joe Pomeroy 14:37

Can I use energy again, if I've already used energetic? Yeah, well, let's go with energy because that's really I mean, the driving thing behind it.

Neil Dylan Young 14:44

Cool. So if you ask me again, I want to be a healthy 210 pounds.

Joe Pomeroy 14:48

I want to be a healthy 210 pounds

Neil Dylan Young 14:50

so that I feel energetic

Joe Pomeroy 14:51

so that I feel energetic

Neil Dylan Young 14:53

and have tons of energy

Joe Pomeroy 14:55

and have tons of energy,

Neil Dylan Young 14:57

so that I'm able to what would you be able to do

Joe Pomeroy 15:00

In a word, or can this be like a phrase?

Neil Dylan Young 15:03

It needs to be like something you're doing. So it can be a phrase or doing phrase. And just one word of advice here is that, so the want the feel the have and the do, they're all proportional to each other, you know, so you can't say, I want to feel energetic and have tons of energy. So I can go sit on the couch and eat a sandwich, you know, because as soon as one of them increases, the other ones need to increase. Okay, so what's the action that needs to happen all the time, that would allow your energy increase and the feeling of energetic to increase?

Joe Pomeroy 15:30

Well, I think on a personal aspect, I think of being able to run around and keep up with my kids. And in a professional aspect, I think of being able to show up every day for the clients that I serve, and be able to help them through that. So okay, I guess both of them are about showing up and participating with those in my life.

Neil Dylan Young 15:51

I think. I mean, just from working with a lot of people, I think you'd definitely be able to do that once you've achieved the goal, but we're really after the action that will help you achieve that goal. So Just when working with other people it might be, I want to feel energetic and have tons of energy so that I can build more muscle or create a calorie deficit or follow a healthy routine or something along those lines. So which kind of action would you pick?

Joe Pomeroy 16:15

I like the healthy routine

Neil Dylan Young 16:16

healthy routine. Okay,

Joe Pomeroy 16:17

let's do that one.

Neil Dylan Young 16:18

So repeat after me, I want to, I want to be a healthy 210 pounds.

Joe Pomeroy 16:22

I want to be a healthy 210 pounds

Neil Dylan Young 16:25

so that I feel energetic,

Joe Pomeroy 16:26

so that I feel energetic

Neil Dylan Young 16:28

and have a ton of energy

Joe Pomeroy 16:30

and have a ton of energy

Neil Dylan Young 16:31

so that I'm able to follow a healthy routine,

Joe Pomeroy 16:34

so that I'm able to follow a healthy routine.

Neil Dylan Young 16:36

How does that sound?

Joe Pomeroy 16:38

I want something different between energetic and energy.

Neil Dylan Young 16:40

Fair enough. I mean, from working with lots of people, it needs to be a word that means a lot to you, but just from working with lots of people with regards to health schools, the identity could be powerful, fit, strong, sexy, vibrant, energetic. Those are some of the words

Joe Pomeroy 16:54

I like vibrant,

Neil Dylan Young 16:55

vibrant,

Joe Pomeroy 16:56

feel vibrant, I associate that with powerful Living energetic living so long the same lines as energetic but it's, it's just a different word strikes it from almost striking it from a different angle, I suppose.

Neil Dylan Young 17:09

Love it. So vibrancy leads to energy. Mm hmm. Love it. So how do you feel about that sentence now?

Joe Pomeroy 17:14

I like it.

Neil Dylan Young 17:15

Awesome. So a lot of people feel great after they come after they come up with their own sentence because it's their words and like, Yes, I love this, you know, but then it's like, how do I execute on this. So the first half of the sentence is your internal needs. And then the second half of the sentence is your external needs, at least to the success. So the first two needs which is wanting to be a healthy 210 pounds, and then the feeling of feeling vibrant, that satisfies you internally. Like wanting that goal that satisfies your heart and that gets you out of bed in the morning. That's the intent and passion, okay? And then feeling vibrant. That's a really nice feeling. So you will enjoy yourself while you're achieving the goal. And then the second half of the sentence is all about the external needs. Having energy that's kind of your metric that you will measure your progress on And then following a healthy routine, that's your doing metric each day. thing, as I see with a lot of people, especially to uncover times, you know, like certainty having physical things is the number one need of all human beings, especially during times like COVID. If it's your only focus, you really are screwed, because everything's kind of like lessening around you. And if it's your number one need, you're going to get really anxious and paranoid about the future. So while it's important to focus on energy as your metric and other goals that people might have sales or clients or money, if people don't see that metric increasing, they get depressed, like, No, I'm doing it wrong, you know, so I'll give up on the school. That's why it's super important to focus on the doing metric, you know, so yours is following a healthy routine. If it's a money goal and might be making 10 sales calls a day, or like 10 like minded conversations. So the doing metric is so important. And by focusing on the emotion and the intention, then the physical result comes in the end.

Joe Pomeroy 18:53

Well, that's awesome. One of the things I realized what it sounds like you're saying from the doing metric is is that is something I can control

Neil Dylan Young 19:01

hundred percent.

Joe Pomeroy 19:01

It's not something that's outside of me that my doing metric doesn't have to do with the amount of money that I make. It has to do with the amount of sales calls that I make.

Neil Dylan Young 19:10

Yeah,

Joe Pomeroy 19:11

I like that.

Neil Dylan Young 19:12

Yeah.

Joe Pomeroy 19:12

Well, hugely helpful for me and follow that same, that same process. So and I appreciate your your patience with it, too. And one of the things that it shows is that I don't have to get it perfect the first time. You know, I started out with energetic because man, that felt great. And then after we did, it's like, you know what, I want to make a small tweak. And so I think that's something that a lot of people get hung up on, and that that I can as well as this idea that I can't start until I've got it perfectly lined out. I need to know the perfect words for each point before I start doing it, because I mean, Neil, what if I start doing my incantation, and they're not the right words? I mean, and then it just fails again. So what does somebody do if they're going through their incantation and and how can they tell if it's hitting all those right points, and if it's the right level of power and energy for them. And when would they know if adjustments are appropriate?

Neil Dylan Young 20:07

So you just hit the nail on the head when people aren't getting ahead and they're like, obsessing Is it the right thing, certainties that no one need, like, I have to get it perfect needs to be set in stone, that also becomes like a physical thing. You know, like, this is the truth, but I'm obsessive about my incantations, and I'm tweaking all the time, like, all the people I work with are always tweaking it, you know, I say, just come up with something, and then test it. And it's just, it's like anything in life, just testing and then changing, testing and changing you know, whether it's whether you're doing Facebook ads or anything in life, you know, you just got to test it and change all the time. So definitely just get a first draft and keep on saying it to yourself, and experimenting and trying it out. And it's got to feel right. If it doesn't feel right, then you know, you you need to go back, but you need like just something to start with. Otherwise you'll be stuck in your head the whole time.

Joe Pomeroy 20:57

I like that. I had this idea to like sometimes We need change we need like, yes, we need that constant that consistency. But there's also something fresh, something new. And so if energy or if vibrant, if something like that becomes stale, then there's no harm in changing it to something else is what I'm getting from what you're saying. And then if I want to go back to vibrant, I can do that. It's a consistent action and taking action that sounds like it's at the center of what makes us so powerful.

Neil Dylan Young 21:29

100% like, everyone, I work with the masterminds around every quarter, we're revisiting these, you know, I mean, some people are changing each week, you know, think, Oh, well, this emotion, people get really obsessive about this, because all we have is our words really, like what we have physically and stuff. You can't really control that, like curvatures it can be taken away. So the meaning that you give things. It's all we have, you know, it's when people come up with their own words. It's just like, really exciting for them and they become obsessive, yeah, in a good way.

Joe Pomeroy 21:57

Awesome. So, these incantations That you do like you talked about having a what are the eight different areas that you focus on to drive you forward in your life.

Neil Dylan Young 22:06

So eight life areas, I focus on our business, finance, health, relationships, education, play, environment and contribution. So I've got an incantation of each one of those areas. When I'm talking with you right now I'm focusing on my relationship or my contribution incantation. If I'm doing my workout in the morning, I'll focus on my health incantation. If I'm with my family is my relationship with contribution one again, if I'm with my team, it's my business and finance one and so on. You know, there's just like a different incantation for different

Joe Pomeroy 22:33

situations during the day. How did you come up with those eight areas? Is that something that you've worked out as you because you talked about going to a lot of different speakers? Is that something you've worked out to have balanced in your life? or How did you come up with that?

Neil Dylan Young 22:46

So I prefer those because I think it encompasses all of life. The most important thing and then at the end of the day is having your own categories. So if you think it's too much, do four or six, you know, the important thing is categories. I wouldn't get too bent on on eight categories, you know, as long as you have categories and you're happy with it, that's a start.

Joe Pomeroy 23:04

Awesome. Well, and that's, I mean, as we're going through, because you mentioned eight, and I'm thinking man, that that one on health, like trying to remember all that and then keep focused on it. But so I like the idea of categories too. And I really liked how you talked about, it's not something that needs to remain constant through every moment of every day. Yeah. If I'm hearing your right, one's not more important than the other. It's what is important in that moment. Yeah, based on what you're doing, is that accurate?

Neil Dylan Young 23:33

Yeah, hundred percent. I mean, for example, I am big squash player, you know, so I pay like pretty good standard of squash. I like to think I was playing a really tough game this morning. And I was focusing on my kind of business and health incantations, you know, because I really wanted to achieve the task of beating this guy. It was my health I needed to keep up. Whereas if I focus on my relationship, one, you know, like, I wouldn't have like, gotten even close to being this guy. You know, so You can kind of sense which incantation you need during the day. Yeah.

Joe Pomeroy 24:04

Now when you talk about focusing on them, so are these things that you're repeating in your mind? Are they things that you're aware of, and that you've done for long enough that you just kind of can sense them in the back of your mind? Like, what does that mean when you talk about focusing on these incantations?

Neil Dylan Young 24:18

So I've put them into really condensed sentences, because otherwise it's, it's too much. So I put it into a concise version. So my business one is, I want organized, not dependent staff to get more work done. Okay. One thing I didn't do with you, just because we're short on time, was, I also do the negative emotion too. So I said, I want to feel organized, not dependent and have tons of staff so I'm able to get more work done. I also do the negative emotion, just because I have a spectrum of quite who I want to be and who I don't want to be right. I just made a very concise so my business one is I want organized, not dependent staff to get more work done. I find out one is I want productive, not broken resources. add more value. I could go through all of them. Yeah,

Joe Pomeroy 25:02

man, this is awesome. I'm gonna have to once we wrap up here, I'm gonna have to get down and figure out okay, what are my categories and instantly rewind and make sure you know that the formula right? So that's really cool. I like this idea. When you first talked about the ability to live your dream in life includes the four things that you talk about mastering intentions, feelings, habits and energy. And this is a very real way to be intentional about achieving goals because it's not just writing down the goal, I want to be healthy 210 pounds, that's great that I have that desire, but what am I being who am I being and what am I doing? internal and external, like you talked about, in order to move towards that?

Neil Dylan Young 25:48

Yeah, hundred percent on my passion for really coming up with these incantations, which is open to so many personal development events and like I said, the number one need of human beings is certainty. So all the speakers and No one is going to business knows like, they don't need a certainty. And the way you satisfy that is through physical things. So when people are handing over money for content and stuff, they want to see a lot of stuff they want to I want a notebook, I want the 10 steps to this, the four steps to this, the eight program to this. And then you go to the event, you get all of it, you're like, Yes, I've got my money's worth. And then it's way too much stuff to do. It just sits at home on the bookshelf and stuff, you know, and it's just way too much stuff going on to kind of get through this all the time. I just after doing this 22 Tony events and countless others, I've just noticed it's very simple. It's just satisfying your human needs. And the words you're saying in your head all the time. So I like to keep it really simple.

Joe Pomeroy 26:36

I can't imagine go to 22 Tony Robbins events in 22 consecutive months. I feel like there'd be a lot of learning but I feel like I'd be spend as much time in between recovering from the amount of energy expended. So part of what I love about the podcast and just relationships in general is that I don't have to go through that myself. I can take from your experiences in real It comes down to this. And I love focusing on the core principles that we go through. Alright, well, we're about ready to wrap up here. So two questions. First, what's the one principle you hope listeners will walk away with? Second? How can we find out more about you connect with you online, etc.

Neil Dylan Young 27:19

The one takeaway I'd say was, every second of your life matters. So make sure you know your intentions, feelings, habits and energy, so that when times do get tough, you're ready to be unaffected. If things are comfortable, everything's going fine, then you probably don't need it. But charisma, an extreme and a perfectly perfect example. You know, when things start getting tough, you need to be ready for it. So you need to know who you are and how you're going to deal with that. Yeah, that's quite a long takeaway.

Joe Pomeroy 27:48

That's perfect.

Neil Dylan Young 27:49

And then yeah, ways to get in touch with me. So I do do one on one coaching with a few clients, but I don't like to do too much. I will prefer my mastermind groups. Normally, there were $500 per month to join those. But I found with COVID. Everyone's so paranoid about the future. Yeah, just saving their money. I think I could talk for ages about this. But yeah, the reason I say that is that I've dropped my mastermind down to $100 per month. And that's one session per week, there's only $25 per call. And I just want to serve as many people as I can, because people do need help now just master the emotions, with all the certainty around them disappearing. So if you're interested in joining our hundred dollar mastermind, visit our website, www dot advanced alpha dot e forward slash mastermind.

Joe Pomeroy 28:34

We'll have that in the show notes as well. And you're on social media too.

Neil Dylan Young 28:38

Yeah, LinkedIn, Instagram and Facebook.

Joe Pomeroy 28:40

All right, well, we'll have that information in the show notes for our listeners. Thank you, Neil, so much for your time. Thank you for this specific work that that I got to go through. That was fantastic. Really appreciate you.

Neil Dylan Young 28:51

enjoyed it. Thank you.

Joe Pomeroy 28:57

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